Everyone has told me that going to a movie on a first date is not a good idea. The reason was because you’ll be wasting 2 hours staring silently at a screen and not getting to know each other. And never in my life, have I ever thought there could be anything illicit about going out for a dinner and a movie.
However about a month ago, I had a bad date, where Mr. Wandering Hands took me to see a movie. Now when a guy suggests a movie during the first date, my gut reaction is to say, “Yeah, why don’t we get to know each other first before we see a movie together.” Of course I don’t say that out loud and sound freakishly prudish. I mean movie theaters are supposed to be places of normality, where things are R-rated at most. It’s not like the guy asked me if I wanted to watch porn…
I wonder if the real reason for not going to movies on a first date is because you don’t know the person, and you really don’t want to be forced to endure 2 hours being near a person who you don’t like. Well even if it’s not the real reason, it certainly has become mine. Now for me it’s like “Good girls don’t kiss (or go to movies) on first dates.” I must admit though, paranoia really isn’t a good trait to develop….
2 comments:
Hmmm, the movie and dinner date is just the I-can't-think-of-anywhere-else-to-take-you mindless date. I suppose a movie first, followed by dinner is better than the other way around. That way, during dinner, if you're really stuck for a conversation topic, you can always mention something funny or what you thought about the movie that can start a long-winded conversation. But if the guy is going to turn out to be someone special, then the movie and dinner date can't be a first date. It's just not memorable enough. Gotta have that, "ooh-he gave me shivers" feeling while we held hands across the park, or, wow, never seen the city skyline at this high up before. It's stuff like that which makes a first date memorable. And in the long run, you can tell your kids, "Yeah, your father and I went to the carnival for our first date, and it was hilarious when he got cotton candy stuck in his hair!" Not, "yeah, your father was trying to put his hands all over me at the movie on our first date." That just doesn't have the same ring to it.
Thanks Jen, Good another excuse not to go to a movie on a first date. Definitely going to refuse in the future. Too many reasons not to. ^_^
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